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Sick of swiping, some South Asian Americans consider arranged marriage
Disillusioned by Dating Apps, South Asian Americans Turn to Modern Arranged Marriages
Athena Sobhan, 28, has been navigating the world of online dating for nearly a decade, using platforms like Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, and even South Asian-focused dating apps like Dil Mil. However, after more than five years, she feels these apps have deteriorated significantly and is ready for a different approach.
“The apps suck so bad, it’s not even funny,” said Sobhan, who is Bangladeshi American and lives in Southern California. “I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t want to play games.”
Disillusioned by her experiences, Sobhan decided to delete all her dating apps and asked her mother for help in finding a potential partner — a question she never thought she’d utter: “Will you look for someone for me?”
A Return to Arranged Marriages
As dating apps continue to disappoint young people seeking love, some South Asian Americans are reconsidering an alternative that was once seen as a relic of their parents’ generation: arranged marriage.
Western-driven media like Netflix’s “Indian Matchmaking” have, in recent years, sparked an exoticized interest in arranged marriages and Indian weddings. But the modern arranged marriage doesn’t necessarily look like what the media has depicted, said Harleen Singh, associate professor of women’s studies and South Asian literature at Brandeis University.
“It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re arranged and forced to get married,” Singh explained. “This lens of what a South Asian arranged marriage is, it’s often also a lens that is coming from the outside.”
In some religious or orthodox communities, the families make the decision and sit down together once or twice before the couple meets at the proverbial altar. But that’s not usually the case anymore, especially in the U.S. diaspora.
Many people who are opting for arranged marriages today say an initial introduction would be followed by months of dating and getting to know each other before any decision is made. They just want to know they’re meeting people who are serious about marriage — and they trust their parents more than an app’s algorithm.
“A dating app is only as successful as whatever programming has gone into it,” Singh said. “Whereas when families are involved, they’re really thinking not just about the two individuals, but really about a much larger community partnership that’s coming together through those two individuals.”
Modern Matchmaking Services
Radha Patel, founder of the matchmaking service Single to Shaadi, is among those trying to modernize the concept. Her services don’t filter by caste, color, or astrological chart. She also accepts people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
“We really want to take all the old notions of what parents think matchmaking is in our culture and throw it out the window,” she said.
She seeks to balance the modern with the traditional — the biodatas with the happy hours. Patel officially started her service in 2018 because of the collective frustration she saw her peers having with dating apps. Cultural pressures to find a spouse have collided with an endless deluge of bad options in modern dating, she said.
“It’s the paradox of choice, and ‘I can just swipe’ or ‘I can just ghost,’” she said.
She clarified that she’s not a headhunter who can find someone the perfect person. Getting people matches is the easy part, she said, but the rest is up to them.
“I can get you a match every single day. The problem is what you do after that,” she said.
Disappointments with Dating Apps
Joytsana Sangroula, 24, a Nepali American from New York, has also recently deleted all of her dating apps. She says she’s had good and bad experiences with them but thinks they’re ultimately less organic and serious than a connection she could form through her community.
She’s dating to marry but has struggled to find connections with Nepali men, something she says she increasingly wants.
“My mom’s like, ‘You should be with a Nepali boy,’” she said. “Like, find me one. … It would be nice to settle down with somebody who can speak the same language as me and has the same culture as me, even if it’s not 100%.”
If her parents were to introduce her to someone, it would be more like friends setting her up on a blind date, she said, and it wouldn’t necessarily mean a full commitment to marriage.
Sana, 24, who lives in Dallas and chose to use only her first name for fear of retaliation, hopes to be married by 30. In the past, she’s met guys through Instagram, but the exhaustion of dating has landed her in the same boat as others. Valuing cultural alignment and a similar “halal-to-haram” ratio, she said, she wants to be introduced to someone by her family and date them for a year before getting engaged.
“I’ve seen people who have gotten an arranged marriage and they’re living their best lives,” she said. “I love that for them. So, if it worked for them, it could definitely also work for me.”
Perception of Arranged Marriages
“Indian Matchmaking” and its popularity familiarized Western audiences with terms like biodata, a résumé-like document shown to potential suitors that includes a person’s photo and details about them. It also gave people a glimpse into the superficial, demeaning standards often demanded of women looking for a husband. Hopeful mother-in-laws, for example, asked that their daughter-in-law be a certain height, weight, caste, or skin color.
Some matchmakers are trying to battle that perception. Patel’s services at Single to Shaadi don’t filter by these criteria and accept people of all orientations and identities.
“We really want to take all the old notions of what parents think matchmaking is in our culture and throw it out the window,” she said.
Frustration with Modern Dating Apps
The dating app dominators Bumble and Match Group — which houses Tinder, Match.com, OkCupid, and Hinge, among others — have lost $40 billion in market value over the last three years, according to The New York Times. Young people, like Sobhan, note that everything is behind a paywall now. Key features are disappearing unless you enter a card number, and people aren’t willing to pay for them.
“It’s very known that if you don’t pay for their services, you get some of the worst picks,” she said. “You used to be able to put your preferences, but now you can only put the basic preferences — if you want a man or woman, and if you just want a casual thing — and everything else is behind a paywall.”
A new lawsuit also claims apps like Tinder and Hinge are designed to be addictive and promote compulsive use. A Match Group representative said the lawsuit is “ridiculous and has zero merit.”
“Our business model is not based on advertising or engagement metrics,” they said. “We actively strive to get people on dates every day and off our apps. Anyone who states anything else doesn’t understand the purpose and mission of our entire industry.”
Racism and sexism are also rampant, users and experts say. Queer people of color specifically encounter “sexual racism” on apps like Grindr, and Asian women say they’re fetishized across platforms.
“Just because a space is democratized or because you’re in it doesn’t mean we’re in it equally,” Singh said.
Modern Perceptions of Arranged Marriages
Sangroula says that growing up, she pictured arranged marriages as something that died with her parents’ generation — an ancient ritual where two people are just “assigned to each other” with no say. She now knows that’s not how it has to be.
“I’m still skeptical about the concept of an arranged marriage,” she said. “But as generations progress … it’s more that your parents are like, ‘Hey, like, this person is single. You should talk to them and then see where it goes.’”
With TV shows capitalizing on the intrigue, neither demonization nor fetishization is beneficial or does justice to complex South Asian communities, she said.
“Before there were dating apps, you know, you met people through other people, whether it’s your families that introduce you to each other, or it’s your friends that introduce you to each other,” Sangroula said. “The reason that it begins to be called ‘arranged’ is because we have an assumption of how South Asians go about this business called love and marriage.”
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Sick of swiping, some South Asian Americans consider arranged marriage
Disillusioned by Dating Apps, South Asian Americans Turn to Modern Arranged Marriages
Athena Sobhan, 28, has been navigating the world of online dating for nearly a decade, using platforms like Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, and even South Asian-focused dating apps like Dil Mil. However, after more than five years, she feels these apps have deteriorated significantly and is ready for a different approach.
“The apps suck so bad, it’s not even funny,” said Sobhan, who is Bangladeshi American and lives in Southern California. “I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t want to play games.”
Disillusioned by her experiences, Sobhan decided to delete all her dating apps and asked her mother for help in finding a potential partner — a question she never thought she’d utter: “Will you look for someone for me?”
A Return to Arranged Marriages
As dating apps continue to disappoint young people seeking love, some South Asian Americans are reconsidering an alternative that was once seen as a relic of their parents’ generation: arranged marriage.
Western-driven media like Netflix’s “Indian Matchmaking” have, in recent years, sparked an exoticized interest in arranged marriages and Indian weddings. But the modern arranged marriage doesn’t necessarily look like what the media has depicted, said Harleen Singh, associate professor of women’s studies and South Asian literature at Brandeis University.
“It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re arranged and forced to get married,” Singh explained. “This lens of what a South Asian arranged marriage is, it’s often also a lens that is coming from the outside.”
In some religious or orthodox communities, the families make the decision and sit down together once or twice before the couple meets at the proverbial altar. But that’s not usually the case anymore, especially in the U.S. diaspora.
Many people who are opting for arranged marriages today say an initial introduction would be followed by months of dating and getting to know each other before any decision is made. They just want to know they’re meeting people who are serious about marriage — and they trust their parents more than an app’s algorithm.
“A dating app is only as successful as whatever programming has gone into it,” Singh said. “Whereas when families are involved, they’re really thinking not just about the two individuals, but really about a much larger community partnership that’s coming together through those two individuals.”
Modern Matchmaking Services
Radha Patel, founder of the matchmaking service Single to Shaadi, is among those trying to modernize the concept. Her services don’t filter by caste, color, or astrological chart. She also accepts people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
“We really want to take all the old notions of what parents think matchmaking is in our culture and throw it out the window,” she said.
She seeks to balance the modern with the traditional — the biodatas with the happy hours. Patel officially started her service in 2018 because of the collective frustration she saw her peers having with dating apps. Cultural pressures to find a spouse have collided with an endless deluge of bad options in modern dating, she said.
“It’s the paradox of choice, and ‘I can just swipe’ or ‘I can just ghost,’” she said.
She clarified that she’s not a headhunter who can find someone the perfect person. Getting people matches is the easy part, she said, but the rest is up to them.
“I can get you a match every single day. The problem is what you do after that,” she said.
Disappointments with Dating Apps
Joytsana Sangroula, 24, a Nepali American from New York, has also recently deleted all of her dating apps. She says she’s had good and bad experiences with them but thinks they’re ultimately less organic and serious than a connection she could form through her community.
She’s dating to marry but has struggled to find connections with Nepali men, something she says she increasingly wants.
“My mom’s like, ‘You should be with a Nepali boy,’” she said. “Like, find me one. … It would be nice to settle down with somebody who can speak the same language as me and has the same culture as me, even if it’s not 100%.”
If her parents were to introduce her to someone, it would be more like friends setting her up on a blind date, she said, and it wouldn’t necessarily mean a full commitment to marriage.
Sana, 24, who lives in Dallas and chose to use only her first name for fear of retaliation, hopes to be married by 30. In the past, she’s met guys through Instagram, but the exhaustion of dating has landed her in the same boat as others. Valuing cultural alignment and a similar “halal-to-haram” ratio, she said, she wants to be introduced to someone by her family and date them for a year before getting engaged.
“I’ve seen people who have gotten an arranged marriage and they’re living their best lives,” she said. “I love that for them. So, if it worked for them, it could definitely also work for me.”
Perception of Arranged Marriages
“Indian Matchmaking” and its popularity familiarized Western audiences with terms like biodata, a résumé-like document shown to potential suitors that includes a person’s photo and details about them. It also gave people a glimpse into the superficial, demeaning standards often demanded of women looking for a husband. Hopeful mother-in-laws, for example, asked that their daughter-in-law be a certain height, weight, caste, or skin color.
Some matchmakers are trying to battle that perception. Patel’s services at Single to Shaadi don’t filter by these criteria and accept people of all orientations and identities.
“We really want to take all the old notions of what parents think matchmaking is in our culture and throw it out the window,” she said.
Frustration with Modern Dating Apps
The dating app dominators Bumble and Match Group — which houses Tinder, Match.com, OkCupid, and Hinge, among others — have lost $40 billion in market value over the last three years, according to The New York Times. Young people, like Sobhan, note that everything is behind a paywall now. Key features are disappearing unless you enter a card number, and people aren’t willing to pay for them.
“It’s very known that if you don’t pay for their services, you get some of the worst picks,” she said. “You used to be able to put your preferences, but now you can only put the basic preferences — if you want a man or woman, and if you just want a casual thing — and everything else is behind a paywall.”
A new lawsuit also claims apps like Tinder and Hinge are designed to be addictive and promote compulsive use. A Match Group representative said the lawsuit is “ridiculous and has zero merit.”
“Our business model is not based on advertising or engagement metrics,” they said. “We actively strive to get people on dates every day and off our apps. Anyone who states anything else doesn’t understand the purpose and mission of our entire industry.”
Racism and sexism are also rampant, users and experts say. Queer people of color specifically encounter “sexual racism” on apps like Grindr, and Asian women say they’re fetishized across platforms.
“Just because a space is democratized or because you’re in it doesn’t mean we’re in it equally,” Singh said.
Modern Perceptions of Arranged Marriages
Sangroula says that growing up, she pictured arranged marriages as something that died with her parents’ generation — an ancient ritual where two people are just “assigned to each other” with no say. She now knows that’s not how it has to be.
“I’m still skeptical about the concept of an arranged marriage,” she said. “But as generations progress … it’s more that your parents are like, ‘Hey, like, this person is single. You should talk to them and then see where it goes.’”
With TV shows capitalizing on the intrigue, neither demonization nor fetishization is beneficial or does justice to complex South Asian communities, she said.
“Before there were dating apps, you know, you met people through other people, whether it’s your families that introduce you to each other, or it’s your friends that introduce you to each other,” Sangroula said. “The reason that it begins to be called ‘arranged’ is because we have an assumption of how South Asians go about this business called love and marriage.”